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The most successful people are always looking for ways to improve. They aren’t satisfied with accepting their shortcomings or resting on their laurels. Top achievers put time and energy into being their best selves. Here the story begins–

Generally when you think about personality development two things coming to your mind.

  1. What is personality development?
  2. Self-improvement

Ever since I was a little girl, I always wanted to be an engineer. My father did my admission to a Bengali medium school. The problem begins when my parents told me just scoring goods marks is everything. If you are good in studies means everyone will be thinking you are good in every area. At the early stage, I followed them blindly.  Sometimes whenever we are in a group, chit-chatting with each other I felt they are discussing some topic that I am not able to participate whether it is movie gossip or serious news. At the initial stage, I tried to ignore this fact, but as time goes it affects me and I started feeling inferior to others.

After my secondary exam, I joined engineering college to pursue my dream. That’s where the challenges started. In my first year, everyone seems so superior to me. Even sometimes I afraid to jump into any conversation because I have anxiety about whether if I say anything wrong about any social topic, they might mock me that I don’t know the basic news.

It took me one year to get out of the situation and groom myself and build my confidence. I have gone through so many courses but nothing helps until I love myself and think myself the best. Actually, I always have the skills, but I am not confident to talk about them. So the day I started loving myself and forgetting about my inferiority complex I focusing on how can I be a better version of myself, from that day I gradually got all my confidence.

It will not happen in a miracle way. You need to consistent with few things.

First, you should know what is personal development

Personality development refers to how the organized way of behavior that makes up each person’s unique personality emerges over time. Many factors go into influencing personality, including genetics, environment, parenting, and societal variables. It doesn’t develop in one day. It is a continuous practice. But first, you should have a clear picture of the basic norms of right and wrong things.

I have followed some of the steps in my journey to introspect and improve. Here are few tips on personal development or self-improvement.

1. Adopt a beginner’s mindset

As the term indicates, a beginner’s mindset is all about seeing things through the eyes of a beginner. In this context, you need to explore your interests and values as if you are doing it for the very first time. Disregard your likes, dislikes, biases, and opinions about yourself and the world in general. Let go of all your professional knowledge so that your mind is like a clean slate.

This is easier said than done, but you need to get in this headspace. For example, I used to believe that being a coder is my sole purpose in life. Even when I was not feeling that way anymore, I found it hard not to cling to this belief. Once I let go of it, I felt like I had a world of possibilities. And I’m sure you will feel the same when you adopt a beginner’s mindset.

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” – Allen Saunders

2. Take a couple of career tests

Now that you have a beginner’s mindset, this step should be easier for you. Pretend that you are a graduate student who has no idea what you want to do in life. Then go ahead and take a couple of career assessment tests. Take 3-5 tests and save the results of each. Each test will show you a bunch of careers that might be a good fit for you. Zero in on career choices that interest you and career choices that show up repeatedly. Make sure you focus on the change you want to make in the world instead of the usual ‘follow your passion’ cliche.

Once you do this, you will have a list of potential careers that you are likely to excel in because you have the required aptitude. You are off to a great start! Now all you have to do is marry your strengths and interests. For this, you have to conduct substantial research on what each career involves regarding job responsibilities and how they align with your interests and personality. Doing so will help you further narrow down your list of professions.

3. Write down what you want and what you don’t want

In my experience, career test results can be overwhelming. Like me, you are likely to get a long list of potential careers. Having too many choices can lead to anxiety, confusion, and analysis paralysis. I figured that the best way to deal with this issue is to write things down. So I made a list of things I want and a list of things I don’t want in my professional life.
One of the items on my ‘don’t want list stated that I don’t want to do a monotonous IT job. And one of the items on my ‘want’ list stated that I want to help people and give them the exposure to learn quickly. Only after I figured this out could I choose between Job or freelancing.

4. Listen to your gut instinct

Once you complete the above steps, you should have one or two solid career options in front of you. When you can’t pick one, or if you have a longer list, you know who you should rely on, right? Your gut instinct. Even when you have all the data you need, your gut instinct is powerful and should not be ignored. The wisest way to avoid regrets and succeed is to give everything your best shot.

Now when you have followed this long path, you already build up a strong personality.

The second most important thing you should remember that you need to be happy in your life and spread happiness to others.

“A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees.”-Amelia Earhart

A very simple way to spread more happiness in your own little world is through kindness. It’s often an easy and quick thing you can do as you move through your daily life. But we sometimes forget about it. Or don’t remember how it can help us all.

Now, when you have known all the traits of personal development, let’s talk about what are the skills you need for a personal brand.

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